Suffering or “pain” in a broad sense is an experience of unpleasantness and aversion associated with harm or threat of harm in an individual. Suffering is the basic element that makes up the negative valence of affective phenomena.
Let’s dissect this…
Aversion is the first word that jumps out at me and, ultimately, the only word that matters. We are so quick to deflect, hide, point fingers, or run away from the pain that causes our suffering. Why? Is it much easier to suffer from suffering or to suffer temporarily when we address our pain?
For example, a person who wants to lose weight can choose their path of suffering: long or short term. Long term: Contain, hide, run away, blame, or makes excuses for their suffering - never addressing the true cause of their pain within themselves and their past. Short term: Admit, accept, and forgive themselves for their pain, and suffer temporarily through a battle of wants vs needs. Addressing the cause of the pain will create suffering, but we must take the perspective that the temporary pain is necessary in order to heal. This concept can be transposed to various types of suffering; the cause can be universal…
We all suffer for ourselves. We do not suffer for anyone or anything. Let that sit a little…
How we experience a situation can dictate if we suffer, when we suffer, how long we suffer, and how much we suffer because our reality (our experience) is what we perceive it to be.
We can suffer because we are suffering.
Suffering becomes a “problem” when we become comfortable in the chaos.
The difference will be perspective…
First one must admit that they are suffering.
Do you know why you suffer [for yourself]?
What is the cause of your suffering, not the symptoms?
What lessons can you learn from your suffering?
How do you react in situations that encourage your pain from within?
Do you take responsibility for yourself - how you experience and perceive reality?
Does fear play a factor? Why are we so afraid to overcome our fears?
Suffering is necessary - death brings rebirth. Often our suffering is our own way of saving ourselves from a greater pain that we are too vulnerable to confront when it occurs.